Sneak Up On Your Dreams

Create and achieve your dreams, little by little

12th November 2008

Set things up to accomplish anything

by Aileen Journey

NaNoWriMo feels like it’s sucking all the words out of me. I sit and push myself to write a few more words then a few more then a few more every day. The ability to put down words even when I don’t feel like it or am even highly resistant is satisfying and feels right.

What makes this pushing through and writing thousands of words when I don’t want to possible, is that I outlined the novel in detail in October. This makes the actual writing so much easier since I always know what’s supposed to happen next. After I’m finished I’ll need to find a way to break down the editing in same way so that it doesn’t involve a large, open space of trying to figure out what to do. I’ll need a checklist to go through one time at a time.

We, as humans, need structures to follow to move us forward. I’m sure there are people who can move ahead without needing anything to fall back on, but I find that structures, even structures I create, give me something to rely on. They make me feel like I don’t have to invent anything new, that I can just go back and look at my structure to be able to move ahead.

In education, this is called “scaffolding.” If a child is trying to produce something a teacher will keep adding a little more help and information as the child seems to struggle. If the child can produce the work right away then nothing is needed, but if they need some help the teacher will provide a piece and then another and another as needed. As the child learns, less and less scaffolding is needed for that particular task.

The way I use this is to create as firm and complete a scaffold as possible for myself, for my writing and then I use or ignore it as I need. School and even jobs provide that type of structure or scaffolding. It’s easy to get comfortable and rely on the structure that someone else has set up. For achieving your own special goals, though, you need to build your own scaffold. Don’t think of it as extra work or wasted time, but as a foundation that you can fall back on when you’re feeling lost and unable to see your goal off in the distance.

To build your own scaffold,

1. think about your goal

2. Break it down into the different pieces that need to be done for you to achieve the goal

3. Work backwards putting the pieces, the tasks that need to be done in reverse order

4. Write these down in a line perhaps across the top of a spreadsheet or just a piece of paper, then underneath each piece, list the specific tasks that you need to do to accomplish each one. Put a little check box next to each doable task.

Now you have your own scaffold. You can start working on each item in order. When you’re feeling motivated and moving you can do what you feel like. When you start to feel like your ambition is flagging you can open up your scaffold and see what piece is next to do or if your goal doesn’t require that thing be done in order, look over your list of checkboxed tasks and decide on tone to do that would be least miserable and do it. Your goal is to cross them all off. You can feel accomplished and successful with more checkboxes and you won’t have to think up each task when you’re not feeling that motivated.

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7th November 2008

What will it take for you to feel successful?

by Aileen Journey
Success is different for everyone.  Some people pin their feelings of success to money or job title or size of house or any number of other measures.  Success needs to be something that a person strives for.  People generally have something that gives them that feeling that they’ve made it. 

I wasn’t quite sure what my measure of success would be. I thought that maybe I’d need a particular college degree or level of job or something.  What I found, though, for me, is that success is being self-employed and still able to maintain my standard of living.   The next level of success I want to achieve is to be a regularly published writer.
Thinking about your idea of success can help you focus your goals or even change them entirely.  Think about your peers, perhaps those who you went to high school or college with.  Which ones of them seems “successful” to you?  What kinds of things that people talk about make you feel that they are successful people?  Think then, about what about what they’re doing makes you feel that they’re successful. Is it their job, their lifestyle, their relationships, their living environment?
I have found, doing this activity, that even though, I felt that I need some particular degree or job to feel successful, I noticed that, for my friends, I didn’t consider someone successful by degree or job, but more by amount of flexibility and comfort they had in their lives.  That helped me realize that flexibility of schedule, while meeting responsibilities, was more important to me than the other things.  It helped me alter my goals somewhat to recognize that I wanted to maintain my level of freedom and flexibility more than I wanted a high paying, high status job title.

Take some time to consider what would make you a success.  Does that align with your goals?  Is there something you need to alter in your plans to get you on the path to achieving your own idea of success?

 

 

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